Things have been so frustrating and hard lately. At home, and at work. And things in my life are just so fucking weird.
See, I’m the result of an affair. But I didn’t know this until I was five. The man that raised me, is still the one I think of as my dad, even though he isn’t at all. He was just the man married to my mother, who tried to make it work when shit hit the fan. He loves me, I don’t doubt that. I still see him every Christmas, he still sends me a birthday card, but we aren’t “family”. In fact, there aren’t very many people that I actually consider FAMILY. I have 7 sisters, but I’m only close with three of them. In fact, I could say they’re my favorites. We just all get along really well. My oldest brother is an asshole, and he can suck a dick as far as I’m concerned. One of my sisters is a sex-offender, one of them I just really don’t know that well, and the other is 17. I’m 11 years older than her, we hardly know one another.
My mother and her sister don’t talk because my mom is absolutely and fervently against smoking weed, and my aunt smokes. My mother has no idea how much it helps the kind of pain my aunt lives with. She’s had both of her shoulders replaced, and her shit is fucked up. However, I’m close with that aunt. We share a lot of the same values and outlooks on life. We can have a conversation that doesn’t turn into a yelling match. Overall, I just truly enjoy her. My mother, on the other hand, sort of just pisses me off. She was such a great mom when I was little, but as an adult, I’ve realized how she lies and manipulates… She kept me away from my biological father for my whole life. Why? Because it would just be weird. I’m taking my fiancé to meet him after I go visit the man who raised me for Father’s Day. If that’s confusing, I mean that on Sunday we are going to my “dad’s” house, and then Monday or so, we’ll go meet my bio dad. I don’t care what he thinks, or what his opinion is, but he has been reaching out lately, and my heart is crying out for family.. So, maybe I can just sort of make my own family. Take a little of this person and that person, and put them together in a group that makes me happy. I have so many mixed emotions just based on my parents alone. Life, now, that’s a completely different story..
I hate where I’m at right now. I have a short fuse, and I get mad about the most irrelevant things. My anxiety turns into anger really quickly. My fuse is just shorter than it’s ever been, and everything pisses me off. I could attribute it to having been PMS, but it hasn’t been that. I think I need to go back to counseling. I am always better when I’m in counseling. Because I have someone to listen to me rant. And they are always on my side.
I’m just tired of telling the same story over and over again. Believe me, it’s a really fucking long story. With lots of tangents, and lots of details that are necessary to explain it all. It’s just a lot to continuously have to be re-telling someone new over and over again.
Ugh.. I’m just tired, and bitchy. Work sucked. The air conditioner was out, and I seriously thought I was gonna die. Being a server, in a restaurant with the air conditioner out is like the worst thing to be. There’s no way to cool off. Not for long enough, anyway. I take refrigerator breaks and go stand in the freezer/refrigerator and wait until I’m freezing down to my bones to leave. That lasts about five minutes. It’s sort of like a Rinse and repeat kind of thing. Most of my life is life that.